Don’t make yourself too available to them, My friend.
You are a caring person, but they’re not seeing you the same way.
I know, you are kind, and ‘the one’, they can ever have in life. Being with them, every time they need your help… is, of course, feeling you great inside. You are justifying your role as a friend, colleague and partner, the best as you should.
Even that someone also, experiences that “Special one” feeling, because of your attention & being too available for someone.
But in like not everyone is thinking and feeling the same way, your attention & availability is never enough for everyone.
Sometimes your availability for someone becomes over.
Slowly and gradually, you find that someone losing interest in you, which they had in the first meeting. And that because of your Being too available all the time.
Yes, that happens…and leave you in surprises like, “Is there anything wrong I’ve done to them?” Because all you do is just to help them anyway.
Remember, there can be many outcomes of being available too much, which supported by individual nature, behavior, and emotional factors, too.
So, be ready for its end impact as well, when you are with them all the time.
Know the ultimate consequences of being too available for your friends, for him/her, or to anyone, who doesn’t value your presence, right. This what normally happens when you be with someone all the time.
Reasons: Why you better not to make yourself too available for someone?
1. When available too much…you lose your self respect
Definitely, you have value for the relationship and so you think it’s good for them, if you be present every time they need support.
Nice gesture. But being there always, ultimately will decrease your self-worth in them.
Because they take you as you are very easy to approach and that’s the way you lose your self-importance as well.
Indeed you are kind, But Respect yourself first then try to adjust in a relationship.
You really respect them and your relationship, that’s the great one…But, when it comes to self-respect, nothing is better than own worth.
Prefer to stay with a person who values your presence, give equal importance and attention…that you are giving to them.
Do every good thing, you can for them. But, don’t waste your time to prove your worth.
2. They start taking you for GRANTED
In most cases, you feel like you are taken for granted, and that also due to being a genuine person in a relationship. But, first you also need to understand, you are the reason for that.
It’s you are who make yourself too much available for them and give them a chance to treat you like no one.
You don’t need to available all the time to everyone, not everyone respects your presence. Not everyone missing you when you are not around.
Let your absence realize them your importance. When you stop being available to them, they eventually find your true worth. Sometimes your absence is enough to inform, how valuable you are and what they’re losing.
If they don’t value your time and then better to move on. Don’t make yourself too available, when they are taking you for granted.
Not everyone is caring just like you… so stop expecting it from everyone.
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3. You interrupt their space when you always available
You have feelings and cares for them, you love them. That’s right. But being too available with them all the time, and you’re invading their me-time. In simple mean, you are not giving them enough room for, ownself.
Don’t forget that…They also want some space and time to spend with themselves. And that’s not possible if you are always available to them.
So, Don’t be too available and let them enjoy their own company & own time as well. Trust them, they are your own. Give some room to let them be with own.
Not everyone wants to get surrounded by others all the time, sometimes they also want to Be with their own, as well. And, that’s fine.
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Give them care, respect and all love you can. But, don’t expect too much. Not everyone have a heart like you.
4. They’ll think YOU’RE FREE always
Be with them when they need you, is quite a good thing. That every true friend and partner needs to do.
I also know… Every time you just left your very important work and go for them, when it’s their call, asking for Help. Great one, but they’re not aware of the sacrifices, you’ve been doing for them.
You give them priorities above everything, even your time and works. But, they don’t know about or even bother to know it.
Ultimately, this will make them realize that… you are always free and have no other things to do.
I know, you have work to accomplish and priorities in life. Not every time you need to give them full attention. You also have some priorities, which again they don’t know. So inform them, as well.
Don’t make yourself too available, because inner they start feeling like… You need them more. Not everyone has the same feeling and respect for you, as you have for them.
Be with those who value your feelings… just like thier time.
5. Your too much availability make them careless
In most relationships, the right persons are always taken as granted for too much available. Remember, If a person calls you, only when they need help, it means you are that one Handy-guy.
A guy who is always there when anything goes wrong, and they want you to solve that.
And, yes, like that guy… you are available there, too. Isn’t it?
That makes them careless for the things which they have to handle on their own. But still, they want you to answer for them.
So it’s better not to become Superman for them because you too have the other work to do. Let them figure it out own self, be there only in case they fail to do so.
I know, this kinda tough for you at first, and even for them, too.
But, look for the end consequences. It’ll make them confident about their own self. When you stop being available, they’ll end up figure out by ownself.
That improves their confidence and certainly feels thankful for you, because you gave them a TRUST, that “I can do it”.
They can have someone better or worse than you. But, will never have the one…”Just like YOU.”
6. Let them feel your absence
Believe this or not, but you are making yourself too much available for them. Of course, you are giving them relief by staying with them every time.
Supporting them and improving them regularly, feels you good inside, that you are helping someone.
But, look for other consequences as well.
In the process to make someone feel special, you even forget to take care of yourself, isn’t it?
Really appreciate your efforts to put lights in someone’s life, but have you consider for your own? Remember some right people, will surely understand your presence and value your time, But not all.
For those who don’t know your true worth, let them feel it by disappear sometimes.
This doesn’t mean to praise ownself and showing pride to them, but don’t let them understand your actual worth.
Your too much availability, give them no room to feel your absence. And that’s why they have no idea how valuable you are. Also, don’t be too available for some time, also.
Let them understand your value, in your absence.
Let them figure out the challenges own self, which you’re handling every time.
And that’ll result in respecting your presence. From the point, when you start respecting your time, they also consider the same.
You don’t have to impress those, who value your presence right.
7. Because of your availability all time, they FEEL BORED in a relationship
It’s good that likeable person who are together for a long period has to understand each other well.
But it’s not necessary, that a person has to know everything about another from the first phase. And other people also need not reveal everything about own…especially when they are just met recently.
In most relationships, either person loses their excitement when they know everything in a very short period.
Yes, that happens…in the early phase, when both are overly excited to know each other and spend a major time together. A fine thing indeed.
But, think about the other aspects too.
Being too available with them and of course, sharing most things (okay, means everything) about your past to them in the early relationship phase, you reach their highest level of excitement quickly.
Again remember, when you staying available around them, talking about your life all the time…and they’ll start losing interest in your life, too. There comes a phase, when they just get feel bored with you, as nothing new you’ve for them.
I know…You’ve experienced that, right?
In order to keep relationship alive and exciting, you better to control your horses. Prefer to read out your stories to them periodically, with required pauses.
Don’t make yourself too available, also don’t open up too much…even they don’t want to know everything in a short period of time. Share information about you as the level of connections builds, just like a thriller movie.
You are unique, stay what you are. But, never change just to get someone’s approval.
8. Create suspense and make them wonder about you
At some point, when you feel like they have losing interest in you and feel no excitement in the relation, as it were before. Then, remember you can be the reason too.
As you have made yourself available too much and they gradually losing interest in you. That’s happening all the time.
Your always availability makes this relationship boring.
Because you reveal not many things, but everything about you. You have been spending too much time with them, talking and sharing about your life…ultimately decreasing the excitement they carried when they met you for the first time.
Remember, to have those surprising elements always, in any relationship you have. Because these are like a fuel to relations, that keep it going by adding timely values and attention.
Don’t be so hurry, take your time, and give them time also.
Don’t be too available, that they know everything about you, in a short span.
Remember, when they recognize there is nothing left to know more about you then, they will find you as a boring person to be with. And, that’s because …You make yourself too much available for them.
You’ll be like a book, which they already read.
Totally agreed that… you care for them, you are respecting their presence in your life. But, overall never lose your identity, too.
No matter what, just never lose yourself.
Don’t make yourself too available Quotes, You want to know.
If you are making yourself too available for someone, then sooner or later you will face some side-effects and consequences of being too available for someone.
But, one thing is sure that… Finally, it’s up to you how much to give preference to others and to whom. Whom to give attention and time, the choice is yours only.
Further, here sharing some “being available” quotes, that you also want to consider.
1. Let them feel curious about you…let them know they are SPECIAL, to have a person like YOU.
2. No one will value you when you are available…they will, only when you’ll not be there.
3. You really need that someone, who proud to have you in thier life.
4. Don’t let others used you, you are not cheap.
5. You are PRECIOUS… that someone will underestimate you. But, only the right one knows that.
6. Not everyone is LUCKY enough to have a person like you.
7. Thanks for always being available, Your presence really does matter for me.
8. I respect you, i admire you..just never change for others.
9. Value your time right. If you can’t then..no one will.
10. Yes, you are too available. Hence, they’re thinking…You always will be there.
11. Don’t make yourself too available, they don’t deserve a person like you.
Value yourself right. Stop being too much available for him or her.
Don’t be in so much hurry to tell everything about you in the first few meetings. Also, don’t expect to learn about her/him in a short time.
Go slow, take your time.
Let the relationship develops between you two build mutually, and NOT forcefully.
share the information occasionally, that’ll keep them excitement alive.
Let them feel excited about your life, and share likewise.
Listen to them, well.. they have something amazing to share with you, too. Don’t be that one who just knows Talking, prefer to listen (care) to their words as well.
Take time to understand their stories, let the Relationship be created by the time.
Your overexcitement and too much availability, ultimately makes everything ‘boring’ too soon… for you and for that someone.
You deserve respect and care, too. So, Don’t make yourself too available to everyone.