Don't make yourself too available to them

Don’t make yourself too Available to them

You are really kind to be there for others, whenever they need your support.

Indeed a good sign, showing you value their presence.

And so everyone feels of “That special one” because of your attention & being available. 

But in some cases, this will not work as it seems.

Your availability in their need is not enough for them. Slowly & gradually you find that they losing interest in you, which they had in the first meeting.

And that because of your being too available all the time.

This will happen when you make yourself too available for others.

When available too much…you lose your self respect

Though you have value for the relationship and so you think it’s good for them, if you be present every time they need support.

Nice gesture, but being there always, ultimately will decrease your self-worth in them.

Because they take you as you are very easy to approach and that’s the way you lose your self-importance as well.

Indeed you are kind, But Respect yourself first then try to adjust in a relationship.


They start taking you for granted

In most case, we feel like we are taken for granted, and that hurt us in our relationship.

But we need to understand the reason for it, is we are.

It’s we are who became too much available for them and give them a chance to take us like no one.

You don’t need to available all the time, people tend to miss you when you are not around.

Let your absence realize them your presence(importance). 

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You interrupt their space when you always available

You have cared for them, you love them.

That’s right. But being available with them all the time, and you even not giving them their me-time.

They also want some space and time to spend with own self.

And that’s not possible if you are always available to them.

So stop being too available and let them enjoy their own company & own time as well.


They’ll think you are Free always

Be with them when they need you, is quite a good thing.

You left your very important work and go to them, when it’s a call.  

Ultimately this will make them realize that you are always free and have no other things to do.

You have work to accomplish, not every time you need to give them full attention.

You also have some priorities, which they don’t know.  

Too much available with them, feel them you need them more.


Your too much availability make them careless

In most relationships, the right persons are always taken as granted for too much available.

If a person calls you, only when they need help, it means you are that one Handy-guy.

A guy who is always there when anything goes wrong to them & you to solve that.

And you are available there, too.

That makes them careless for the things which they have to handle own.

But still, they want you to solve that for them.

So it’s better not to become Superman for them because you too have the other work to do.

Let them figure it out own self, be there only in case they fail to do so.


Let them feel your absence

Believe or not, but you have made yourself too much available for them.

You have given them relief by staying with them every time.

And that’s why they have no idea how valuable you are.

Let them understand your value, in your absence.

Let them figure out the challenges own self, what are you taking care of every time.

And that’ll result in respecting your presence. 


Because of your availability all time, they feel bored in relationship

It’s good that likeable person who is with each other for long has to understand each other well But it’s not necessary, that a person has to know everything about another.

And other people also need not reveal everything about them.

Most relationship, persons loses their excitement when they know everything in a very short period.

In order to keep relationship alive and exciting, the information must be shared slowly, just create a thrill like a suspense movie.

Don’t be in so much hurry to tell everything about you, and Don’t even eager to know them in a very short period of time.

Go slow, share the information occasionally and keep the excitement alive, Let them feel excited about your life.


Create suspense and make them wonder about you

At some point, you feel like they have losing interest in you and feel no excitement in the relation, as it used to.

As you have made yourself available too much and they gradually losing interest in you.

And make this relationship boring.

Because you reveal not many things, but everything about you.

And when they know there is nothing left to know about you then, they will find you as boring.

You’re like a book, which they already read.


Writer’s note:

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2 thoughts on “Don’t make yourself too Available to them

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